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Mother’s day is little over a week away and I’ve been having a long hard think about what it means to be a mother and also what my mother means to me. I was approached by VQ and asked to take part in its Mother’s Day campaign to celebrate the launch of the brand new VQ Emma Bridgewater *Hepburn Mk II * radio and the VQ Emma Bridgewater *Retro Mini * radio which are being sold exclusively in *John Lewis*. As part of the campaign I was asked to talk about my mum and why she deserves her own Emma Bridgewater radio (and a whole lot more).
It’s taken me ages to write this post because it’s actually quite hard to put it into words. I consider myself to be extremely lucky to have the relationship that I do with my mother. We have always been really close and I would even go as far as to say that my mum is one of my best friends. We speak every day without fail, even if it’s only by phone or on messenger, and we see each other multiple times a week. She is the first person I go to when I need someone to talk to or if I need emotional support and she is always there for me.
Growing up, my mum was a massive inspiration to me and played a huge role in helping to shape the person I have become. She helped to nurture my creativity and I have so many fond memories of all the fantastic creative activities we used to do together from reading, drawing and origami to colouring, baking and writing poetry.
She also taught me how great it is to be different and to be an individual and this gave me the confidence to like who I was growing up and not to feel pressured to conform. I think this also helped me to be open-minded and accepting of others and to value the things that make people different.
My mum has played a huge part in my life and like most children, I never really thought about her mortality. It was just a given that mum was always around and it never really occurred to me that she wouldn’t be. That was until one day in 2009, when we learned that mum had breast cancer. That was when everything changed and suddenly we were faced with the very real possibility that we could lose her. The thought alone was so unbearably painful that I really couldn’t let myself go there.
Luckily, mum had other ideas and her positivity, optimism and bravery surprised us all. She took the news far better than the rest of us and seeing her approach the situation and her treatment with such amazing strength was really inspirational. As mum fought to overcome the disease that threatened her very existence, I couldn’t help but think about how awful the future would be without my mum in it.
What if she wasn’t at my wedding? What if she didn’t get to meet her grandchildren? Thoughts so hideous I had to banish them from my mind. I honestly don’t know what I would do without my mum and even now I can’t bear to think about that eventuality…so let’s move on quickly.
As you all probably know by now, I became a mum myself for the first time in December 2013 when I gave birth to our beautiful daughter Matylda and then again in November 2015 when our gorgeous little daughter Milly was born. It was not until the moment I first held my own child in my arms that I truly understood the power of a mother’s love. I can’t even put it into words, it is indescribable and incomprehensible and all-consuming at the same time.
It was only when I became a mother myself that I truly understood and appreciated everything that my mum has ever done for me. All those hours of lost sleep, of complete and utter exhaustion, all the worry, all the guilt, all the tears, all the hundreds and thousands of hours dedicated to helping me to develop and thrive and learn all those new skills that I would need in life.
I never understood how selfless mothers are until I became one myself. And in becoming one I couldn’t help but think back to my childhood and look at it through my mothers eyes, and oh what a different experience that is. The adventure of a child’s first day at school is replaced by the heart ache a mother feels seeing their baby walk through the school gates in their freshly ironed little uniform.
The excitement of a child’s first sleepover is juxtaposed with the anxiety a mother feels when faced with the possibility of their child waking in the night and finding themselves in a strange place.
The elation a child feels going on their first date is replaced by the gut wrenching angst that a mother feels knowing that their baby is not a baby anymore (and could, if they’re not careful, be making their own babies before long).
The exhilaration a child feels when about to embark on foreign travels alone is replaced by the agonizing fear and dread of knowing that if something should go wrong you won’t be right there by their side to help them out.
Thinking about my childhood from my mother’s perspective brings tears to my eyes. Obviously I didn’t mean to put her through so much emotional turmoil, but I did and simply because she loves me. Whilst I’m excited for every milestone my girls will reach, I’m also nervous, scared, worried, stressed and every emotion in between. I love them both so much it physically hurts and to think that every day that passes is a day closer to the time when they will no longer need me just breaks my heart. (*I’m welling up just writing this!)
So before I start really blubbing, I just wanted to finish this post with a message for my mum. I want her to know that I appreciate everything she has given me, everything she has done for me, everything she gave up for me, everything she taught me and all the support that she continues to give me as I try to raise my girls as well as she raised me. Happy Mother’s Day Mum and I hope you enjoy listening to your new radio!!! (Thank you VQ for giving me this beautiful gift for my mum).
If you want to treat your mum to a VQ Emma Bridgewater radio this Mother’s Day then you could be in luck. VQ has given me a new *Hepburn Mk II Pink Hearts radio* to give away to one lucky reader. All you need to do to be in with a chance of winning is leave a comment below stating what your mum means to you and why you think she deserves her own VQ Emma Bridgewater Pink Hearts radio. Alternatively you can enter by tweeting or posting your reason on Facebook or Instagram using the hashtag #MyHeroMum. The giveaway closes for entries at 12pm on Mother’s Day (March 6th). VQ will then select a winner.
Let’s make some noise for all the amazing mothers out there who deserve to be recognised this Mother’s Day! After all, being a mother is definitely the hardest job there is, right?
UPDATE: WE HAVE A WINNER
— VQ (@MyVQUK) March 6, 2016